In our era of dying love, trust and care, a lot of female gender has lost hope in the male folks, yet the need for this post. I decided to put this together to assist the male genders to become better persons, especially in the full support of their female counterparts...
Today, we have more divorce than the crow of a cock in the morning, and this can be traced to be a problem of "tasteless love"... Remember, since there are marriages without love, there must be lovers without marriages. The question, most Men will ask is so what is he saying now?... Relax and breeze through this fantastic research...
I was having a close discussion with two female colleagues, where I elucidated this facts to them, and their responses made me to publish this, so that somehow, I may be able to aid a relationship whose love flame is about to go off.. Firstly, I want to categorically state here that every woman has 5 elements that must be in place to make them continuously happy, while every lady or girl has 4 elements with the 5th element absent, don't worry, I will explain better shortly, but before then, let me explain some terms...
*Girl/Lady- Every female gender that is unmarried
*Woman- Every female gender that is married
*Love- the extra mile you can go for someone, even when it is not convenient for you, the bible further said "Love your neighbour as yourself". The love I am writing on is one where the person loves the next person more than him/her-self.
Below are the five elements needed to make the female folks glad...
1. LOVE
2. CARE
3. ATTENTION
4. MONEY
5. SEX
1.- LOVE: Every female gender wants to be loved, mind you, love is different from care, but what people see when you love them is care. If you truly love someone, you should care for them, though in our Era, a lot have changed, you will see a lot of change between love and care, some people can care and not love, while others can love but have no care. To succeed in thrilling the female folks, that is both the Girl/Lady and Woman, you must love truly, innocently and sheepishly too... When you love a woman, girl or Lady, you will be Patient, you will be peaceful with them, you will never raise your hand on them, you will be less angry and most especially LOVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART. This first element is important in association with all female folks.
2. CARE: This is my second element, its a show of kindness and love, the way you speak, hold, fold or scold the female gender speaks loud about how you care for them. To defend them with you last breath, to stand for them in front of a firing squad, to lift them up when they are down, to carry them on your two hands, to call them most of the times than they would call you (and please this excludes social media chats o, like facebook, twitter, whatsapp or BBM), I mean call, not just one text message like that, hear their voice, not voice mail o. I still prefer skype, or other video call programs,where you can see her and she sees you, and you guys talk more. CARE, is another crucial element that makes a relationship with the female folks stronger, longer and sweeter, and this single element makes all the female folks( girl or lady or woman), love you even more. Yes, care is indeed very essential, for example, she is feeling cold, you too are feeling cold, but you gave her your own suit or sweater to make her feel warm, now that is care.
3. ATTENTION: This element is also very crucial, infact, it speaks louder than a club sound system, to those that have spent some time in clubs, they will understand better. Now, in attention giving, you can either give her full attention or no attention, to me, there are no middle marks, that is, you can't give her a half attention, remember, "if e no be panadol, e no fit be like panadol". My dear men, giving the female folks enough attention goes a long way in strengthening your relationship with them. Just open your ears to whatsoever she is saying, be it useful or useless, odd or funky, nice or lies, sharp or blunt, gossip or not, contemporary or ancient, NEWS or Movies, sensible or stupid, hear them out, and also chip in something to make the conversation reasonable. Also in attention giving, make sure you take strong notice of all her details like her date of birth, age, shoe size, best colour, hobbies, favourite foods, infact, whatsoever makes her happy should be your concern, if you do that, indeed, you will win her heart forever.
4. MONEY: I added this to my list because, one who gives receives and money is crucial to make a relationship strong too. Money is important to buy anything, I mean anything. So when your girlfriend or wife says you are stingy, it simply means, you don't love spending your money on her, most especially when you have. Clothes, shoes, perfumes, bibles, under wears, trips, the list is endless, can be bought only with money, so as a man, the purchase of these things as a gift to the female gender makes them happier. Also, you need to take her on field trips, picnics, holidays, cinemas, clubs, church, and so on, which must be done with money. It is true that money is not the main element in a relationship, yet it is the sustaining quality for a great relationship. I was asking some girls if they could date a guy who has no job, and their responses points me to one conclusion, money is important in a relationship, if you don't have money, stay single o, because you may end up saying all girls are the same, when the truth is that you had no money to do the little you could, most especially when necessary. Now, I am not saying that females love money more than their male counterparts, but I am saying that it is the things that money can buy that trips them, that makes them love you even more. Remember, if you have a garden and don't tend it, it may become a wild forest..
5. SEX: Sex was original meant for married peeps, but today every one wants to taste it, wants to feel it, wants to explore it. No wonder its during our era that sex became a sport, we practically have several styles used in making it a sport, the winner is usually the man who comes last while the loser is the one who comes first, which is the opposite of the real rules of sports, where the winner is the first and the loser is the last, funny right?, little wonder there are several medicines, drinks or stuffs Men take just to last extremely long. Many relationships do not reach the marriage phase because of the mismanagement of sex. In today's world, everything is all about Sex....sex...sex, from the music industries, to the movies, to daily conversations, even to churches, sex smells every where. Its like a viral disease, eating deep into the existence of humanity.
The absence of Sex in a marriage relationship, gradually kills that marriage, infact, several married couples have divorced because their sex life is ugly or dead. My advice is this, if you are not married leave sex alone,(mind you, its not easy but achievable)...
In summary, my dear men, give to you girlfriends the first 4(LADY or GIRL) and to the husbands, add the 5th element to complete the whole process.. So if you are married, give to your wife Love, Attention, Care, Money and Sex....
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